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too easy to talk to her. Otherwise she will say something like, Are you selling
something? or Have I met you before? Instead just be normal (though relaxed
and nonchalant)!
Your main thing to talk about can be as simple as your immediate
environment. If you re in a movie theater, ask her if she s ever seen a particular
movie and what she thinks of it. Tell her a story about something interesting
that's happened to you at a movie before.
One of my movie stories that I told one a chick I picked up from a movie
theater and eventually laid:
I took one of my old girlfriends to a movie and it was just us two and these
eight teenage boys. They were being all loud and jumping around before the
movie started.
She had an outburst and said to them, "You had better get this out of your
system right now, because when the movie starts, you need to be quiet!"
They all gave me the dirty looks, because as guys, you can't fight girls but
you can fight other guys.
So then later on I went into the restroom and there all eight of them were.
I felt like they were all about to jump me.
But then they got really whiny and said, "Don't tell on us!" It turned out
they were in there hiding because they'd snuck into the movie theatre and didn't
want to get caught.
I know the above story is lame, but that doesn't matter to a girl. Just be
sure when you tell your stories to emphasize the emotional parts, since emotion
is like crack cocaine for girls. (In the example above, it has more of an impact to
use a whiny voice when imitating the teenage boys for instance.)
And also, don't use my story. Use your own!
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If you re in the waiting room of a dental clinic (as I was a few months ago),
ask her if she s seen that particular dentist before and what her opinion is of him
(as I did with this chick who's phone number I got and saw the next day... it was a
nice, standard coffee-shop-then-bar-then-my-house-then-sex-after-several-
hours-on-my-couch-watching-videos kind of lay).
Tell her you're cautious these days about dentists because of this one
dentist you went to named Dr. Finger who had the fattest fingers you've ever
seen in your life. (At this point she should laugh.)
From there you can talk about how you think it's interesting that people
become the occupations that fit with their last name. Dr. Finger was a dentist.
You also knew a girl named Amy Salmon who went into fish conservation.
At this point, if the girl is worth talking to, she will share similar weird
coincidences or talk about something else to keep the conversation going. So
this is a way to gauge her availability to you i.e., whether the conversation
becomes two-sided.
(A woman who doesn't make conversation with you is so not interested in
you that she won't even give you a chance, or she's just nervous. If it's the latter,
I like to just take the girl's phone number and see her another time, since it's
difficult to have same-day sex with a nervous chick.)
Once you ve made your opening comment and she replies, let the
conversation flow. Change the subject. Talk about whatever else is on your
mind, such as something interesting you just read in Psychology Today. The key
is to talk about more than one subject.
Why do you want to do this? Because you want her (and you) to have the
feeling that the two of you can talk about anything.
Have you ever been in a conversation like that, which seems to last for
hours because you and other person keep thinking of new threads to talk about?
That s the kind of rapport that you want to create.
You can always go back to previous conversational threads to reopen
them and talk about them some more. This serves to give you perfect
opportunity to avoid awkward pauses.
No matter what you as the alpha male decide to talk about, your attitude
will be the most important thing. If you feel fear, she will detect that and be
repelled by you.
Instead, approach with the full knowledge that women love sex, and so
there is a good chance that a woman will appreciate you talking with her. Even if
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she doesn t, it s her responsibility to let you know, not yours to try to read her
mind.
So have a normal conversation, be relaxed and let it flow.
The dirty little secret about your interactions with women is that it doesn t
really matter what you say. You want to vibe with her and get rapport. Just get
the good rapport going!
When the time comes where she asks your name, say your name with
pride and give her a chance to tell you hers. If you feel like it, shake her hand at
this point. This introduces the dynamic of the two of you being comfortable
touching each other.
Ask her questions; make statements, and just vibe for a few minutes.
You ll know she s interested in the conversation as soon as she starts making
statements on her own and asking you questions back. (In other words, as I
said, the conversation will become more two-sided.)
At this point, have the sort of normal conversation that you would have
with an acquaintance who you d known for a long time. (Although you haven t
known this woman for more than a number of minutes, you want her to feel
comfortable as if she d known you for a while.)
When you have known somebody for long time, you don t bombard him or
her with questions. Instead you make statements about what s going on around
you such as how you can t believe how much junk food people are buying at the
grocery store that evening.
Be laid back and vibe with her. I find that I m a lot more successful when
I m low energy rather than high energy with a woman. The reasons are that:
1) She won t feel as if she has to work to match your emotional state if
you come across as super energetic.
2) Women are more sexual when they are relaxed.
Making the Date
When the conversation has become two-sided and you feel a good vibe,
it s time to seal the deal. You can either ask her out right then or get a phone
number and have your date later.
Base the decision on whether the two of you have time at that point. As a
general rule, it s best to avoid going on a date unless you have sufficient time to
get laid. So if she s on her way to a hair appointment, get her phone number and
set up the date later.
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To set the date right then, make it informal and have it sound as if it s
going to be quick and no big deal. Say something like, You know, I m in the
mood for a quick cup of coffee. I d love for you to join me.
The rules are important, so here s a summary:
1) Give her a sense that you won t be meeting for long. This will have
a positive effect on any doubts she may have about having coffee (or
whatever) with a guy she just met.
2) Make it sound informal. You don t want her to think of it as a date in a
traditional sense, or else it will introduce a dynamic of nervousness on her
part and she ll make you wait for sex. (Most women have a policy of not
sleeping with a man on a first date.)
If you decide to get her phone number, just say something like, I enjoyed
talking with you, but I need to get going. Maybe we can hang out sometime.
If she makes a positive statement such as Yeah, that would be fun, then
get her digits.
As the alpha male you control the frame, so don t make a big deal out of it
and she won t either.
It s always best to approach a woman who s by herself, since a woman
with friends typically won t leave them to go off with some guy she s just met.
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